An American psychologist said: Living a happy life is a fine art which entails ten things:
1. Do a work that you love. If you cannot do that, then find a hobby that you love and do it in your spare time and reinforce it.
2. Take care of your health for it is the spirit of happiness. This means being moderate in eating and drinking, exercising regularly and avoiding bad habits.
3. Have a goal in life, for this will give you motivation and energy.
4. Take life as it comes, and accept the bitter and the sweet.
5. Live in the present, with no regret for the past and no anxiety about tomorrow that has not come yet.
6. Think hard about any action or decision, and do not blame anyone else for your decision or its consequences.
7. Look at those who are worse off than you.
8. Have the habit of smiling and being cheerful, and keep company with optimistic people.
9. Strive to make others happy so that you may benefit from the atmosphere of happiness.
10. Make the most of occasions of happiness and joy, and regard them as necessary to renew your own happiness.
Mustafa Mahomoud said:
“I feel happy because I am an average man with an average income. My health is average, my standard of living is average and I have a little of everything, which means that I have a lot of motivation, and motivation is life. The motivation in our hearts is the true warmth of life, the basis on which we evaluate our happiness.
I pray to Allah that He may bless the reader of these lines with an average life, and give him a little of everything…this is a good prayer, I swear by Allah the Almighty.
My mother did not know much about philosophy, but she had common sense and she understood what I am saying without having read about it. She used to call that contentment, and contenment means having enough, having a little of everything and a great deal of spiritual energy.”
“…And if you count the favour [Blessings] of Allah, you could not enumerate them…” (Quran 14:34)
A happy person once said:
“The beautiful day is the day on which we have control of our affairs and our affairs do not control us. It is the day on which we control our desires and we are not controlled by them like slaves.
Some of these days I can remember and will never forget.
Every day on which I managed to save myself from the vicious circle of worrying about what I can and cannot do is a wonderful day.
How wonderful is the day on which I was hesitating whether to do a deed for which people would praise me or a deed for which no one would praise me, and no one would know about it, so I forsook the praise of people and was content to do an action which I will remember for as long as I live, but which no one will hear about.
How wonderful is the day on which I felt that my pockets were filling with money but my conscience was devoid of dignity, so I decided that I would rather be penniless and have a clear conscience.
These days are wonderful, and the most wonderful thing about them is that my worldly gain on these days is very small but the fact I gained self-respect from my actions far outweighs that, and what I gained on such days is great, praise be to Allah, the Exalted, All Merciful.”
Plant a tasbih (saying Subhan Allah) in a second, an idea in a minute, and a deed in an hour.
Source: Dr. ‘A’id al-Qarni
Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend. You must verify that this potential friend has the necessary characteristics that make friendship with him something to be desired. The one you seek to befriend must have five characteristics:
- He must be intelligent, as there is no good in befriending an idiot, as he will only harm you when he wants to benefit you. By intelligent, we mean one who understands things as they are, either on his own, or if they are explained to him;
- He must have good manners, and this is a must. One who is simply intelligent might be overcome by anger or desire, and obey his desire. Thus, there would be no benefit in befriending him;
- He must not be a fasiq, as such a person would not fear Allah, and whoever does not fear Allah cannot be trusted;
- He must not be an innovator, as his abundance of innovation is feared from befriending him;
- He should not be eager for the dunya.
Source: [‘Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin’; p. 126-132] – Ibn Qudamah al Maqdisi]
From Al-Harmaas ibn Habeeb, who narrarated from his father, who narrarated from his grandfather, that he heard ‘Aaishah (radhiyallahu ‘anhaa) saying:
“The best manners are ten:
- Truthful speech
- Sincerity and courage in obedience to Allah
- Giving the one who asks
- Recompensing the worker [employee]
- Keeping the ties of kinship
- Giving back [being trustworthy] with that which you are entrusted upon
- Honesty and good treatment of the neighbor
- Honesty and good treatment of the spouse
- Honouring the guests
and the top of all, the [best manners] is
– hayaa [shyness & modesty].”
[Taken from The Excellence of Aaishah The Mother of The Believers|pg 47. Reference in Arabic (Makaarim-al-Akhlaaq of Ibn Abee Dunya(35).]