With your beauty, you are better than the sun; with your morals you are more sublime than musk; with your modesty you are nobler than the full moon; with your compassion you are more beneficial than rain. So, preserve your beauty with faith, your tranquility with contentment, your chastity with hijab. Remember that your adornment is not gold, silver or diamonds, rather, it’s two rak’ahs at Fajr, going thirsty when you fast for Allah, concealed charity which no one knows except Him, hot tears that wash away sin, a lengthy prostration born of utter submission to Allah, shyness before Allah when the inclination to do evil overwhelms you. Clothe yourself with the garments of taqwa (piety) for you are the most beautiful woman in the world, even if your clothes are shabby. Clothe yourself with the cloak of modesty, for you are the most beautiful woman in the world even if you are barefoot.
Source: Dr. ‘Aid al-Qarni
How beautiful are the words of Hajar (may Allah be pleased with her), the wife of Ibrahim and hte mother of Isma’il, when she followed her husband, after he had left her with her son in a valley that was not cultivated, and departed. She kept asking him, “O’ Ibrahim! Where are you going and leaving us in the valley, where there are no people and nothing?” He did not answer her, so she said: “Has Allah commanded you to do this?” He said: “Yes.” She siad: “The He will not forsake us.” Indeed, Allah does not forsake His righteous slaves. Did not Allah compensate the man and his wife in Surah al-Kahf?
[And as for the boy, his parents were beliver, and we feared that he would oppress them by rebellion and disbelief. So we inteded that their Lord should change him for themfor one better in righteousness and nearer to mercy.] (Quran 18: 80-81)
Did Allah not take care of thetreasure of the righteous man for his two sons, when He commanded the companion of Musa to rebuild the wall so that it would remain strong until the two boys grew up and could take their father’s treasure?
[And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the town; and there was under it a treasure belonging to them; and their father was a righteous man, and your Lord intended that they should attain their age of full strenth and take out their treasure as a mercy from your Lord…] (Quran 18:82)
Look how many generations have passed away. Did they take their wealth with them? Did they take their palaces and their high status? Were they buried with their gold and silver? Did they take their cars and planes with them to the Hereafter? No! They were stripped even of their clothing, and placed in their graves in their shrouds, then each of them was asked: Who is your Lord, who is your Prophet, what is your religion? So prepare yourself for that day; do not grieve or despair about any worldly comforts, for they are cheap and transient. Nothing will abide except righteous deeds. Allah, the Exalted, says:
[Whoever works righteousness – whether male or female – while he [or she] is a true believer [of Islamic Monotheism] verily, to him We will give a good life [in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision], and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do [i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter] (Quran 16:97)
What is happiness? Is happiness to be found in money or status or lineage? There are many answers, but let us look at the happiness of this woman:
A man had an argument with his wife and said, “I am going to make your life miserable.” The wife calmly replied, “You cannot do that.” He said, “Why not?” She said, “If happiness were to be found in money or jewelery, you could deprive me of it and take it away from me, but it is nothing over which you or any other person has any control. I find my happiness in my faith, and my faith is in my heart, and no one has any power over it except my Lord.”
This is true happiness, the happiness of faith, and no one can feel this happiness except the one whose mind, heart and soul are filled with the love of Allah. The one who truly has control over happiness is the One True God, so seek happiness from Him by worshiping and obeying Him.
The only way to find happiness is by learning the true religion with which the Messenger of Allah (Blessings and Peace be upon him) was sent. Once a person finds this way, it will not matter if he sleeps in a hut or by the side of the road, and he will be content with a piece of bread, and he will be the happiest person in the world. But whoever goes astray from His path will find that his whole life is filled with grief, his wealth is deprivation, his efforts are loss and his end will be humiliation. May Allah SWT guide us and keep us firm on His path, Ameen.
A rich man said:
I have no special feelings about being the richest man in the world. I live an ordinary life in a modest apartment with my wife. I do not drink or smoke and I do not like the billionaire lifestyle as depicted in the newspapers, with luxury yachts, mansions in country sides, noisy parities and marriages to beautiful girls, which usually end in divorce with settlements costing millions of dollars.
I like working and I am happy to work. I usually take my lunch with me to eat it in the workplace. I do not feel happy when I think about all the millions I own. What makes me happy is when I remember how I helped to change my hometown of Tokyo from a humble town to a capital city that is the focal point of world attention with its modern architecture that I introduced…in brief, my happiness comes from my achievements.
An American psychologist said: Living a happy life is a fine art which entails ten things:
1. Do a work that you love. If you cannot do that, then find a hobby that you love and do it in your spare time and reinforce it.
2. Take care of your health for it is the spirit of happiness. This means being moderate in eating and drinking, exercising regularly and avoiding bad habits.
3. Have a goal in life, for this will give you motivation and energy.
4. Take life as it comes, and accept the bitter and the sweet.
5. Live in the present, with no regret for the past and no anxiety about tomorrow that has not come yet.
6. Think hard about any action or decision, and do not blame anyone else for your decision or its consequences.
7. Look at those who are worse off than you.
8. Have the habit of smiling and being cheerful, and keep company with optimistic people.
9. Strive to make others happy so that you may benefit from the atmosphere of happiness.
10. Make the most of occasions of happiness and joy, and regard them as necessary to renew your own happiness.
Mustafa Mahomoud said:
“I feel happy because I am an average man with an average income. My health is average, my standard of living is average and I have a little of everything, which means that I have a lot of motivation, and motivation is life. The motivation in our hearts is the true warmth of life, the basis on which we evaluate our happiness.
I pray to Allah that He may bless the reader of these lines with an average life, and give him a little of everything…this is a good prayer, I swear by Allah the Almighty.
My mother did not know much about philosophy, but she had common sense and she understood what I am saying without having read about it. She used to call that contentment, and contenment means having enough, having a little of everything and a great deal of spiritual energy.”
“…And if you count the favour [Blessings] of Allah, you could not enumerate them…” (Quran 14:34)
A happy person once said:
“The beautiful day is the day on which we have control of our affairs and our affairs do not control us. It is the day on which we control our desires and we are not controlled by them like slaves.
Some of these days I can remember and will never forget.
Every day on which I managed to save myself from the vicious circle of worrying about what I can and cannot do is a wonderful day.
How wonderful is the day on which I was hesitating whether to do a deed for which people would praise me or a deed for which no one would praise me, and no one would know about it, so I forsook the praise of people and was content to do an action which I will remember for as long as I live, but which no one will hear about.
How wonderful is the day on which I felt that my pockets were filling with money but my conscience was devoid of dignity, so I decided that I would rather be penniless and have a clear conscience.
These days are wonderful, and the most wonderful thing about them is that my worldly gain on these days is very small but the fact I gained self-respect from my actions far outweighs that, and what I gained on such days is great, praise be to Allah, the Exalted, All Merciful.”
Plant a tasbih (saying Subhan Allah) in a second, an idea in a minute, and a deed in an hour.
Source: Dr. ‘A’id al-Qarni
Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend. You must verify that this potential friend has the necessary characteristics that make friendship with him something to be desired. The one you seek to befriend must have five characteristics:
- He must be intelligent, as there is no good in befriending an idiot, as he will only harm you when he wants to benefit you. By intelligent, we mean one who understands things as they are, either on his own, or if they are explained to him;
- He must have good manners, and this is a must. One who is simply intelligent might be overcome by anger or desire, and obey his desire. Thus, there would be no benefit in befriending him;
- He must not be a fasiq, as such a person would not fear Allah, and whoever does not fear Allah cannot be trusted;
- He must not be an innovator, as his abundance of innovation is feared from befriending him;
- He should not be eager for the dunya.
Source: [‘Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin’; p. 126-132] – Ibn Qudamah al Maqdisi]